Sideswiped-that is tough trying to be friendly and mysterious! I am going to try to just be out and about or whatever to make the whole thing easier! And when I am here I'll workout upstairs or clean (he hangs out downstairs.) So I'll keep in shape & get a nice-looking house! Plus my worst weakness is emailing H and now if it's not related to the kids, I'm not gonna do it. I guess just GALing and acting as if I am too busy (and trying to be really busy) to email or chat with H is the impression we should give maybe?
Kat-I can never find the 6 stages either, but I've checked them about a dozen times. I finally bookmarked them recently and I've got: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=423996&site_id=1#import I think my H is currently in the Anger & Replay stages (they can overlap apparently)! But from reading that, it sounds like my H will be in MLC for 2 years or so!
I was talking to the theatre manager today and he had directed H in a play around the time he started the PA and H was talking about getting a divorce with the theatre mgr. who has already been divorced and apparently H was saying such dumb, inaccurate stuff about what divorce will be like the mgr. told me he was thinking, "I can't believe this guy is an attorney!" I think H's MLC has dropped his IQ by about 20-30 points!!!
So I found out tonight that I will be a ghost during the first part of the tour and then the tour guide for the 2nd half of the tour. And when the theatre mgr. told me yesterday, don't worry, it'll be scripted--he meant that I would be writing the script for my half of the tour!!! So I guess tomorrow I will work on that!!! But I do think it will be a lot of fun on Saturday (and was fun tonight) so I'm glad I agreed to do it!
I almost forgot to mention I got good news tonight before I left. My C called and she had talked to my H about her continuing to see the kids (which he said he did not want anymore this weekend). Joie, (I think you were really right on target with some of your comments--wasn't it you that posted you thought maybe H was jealous of her b/c he thinks she is controlling me now instead of H (but that isn't really true). She never tells me what to do or anything, but when I tell her what I want to do she always is really supportive. I do think maybe H is also angry about me standing up to him now and not letting him run all over me!
Anyway, my C said he was negative when she started talking to him (I'm not surprised)but apparently by the end of the conversation H agreed the kids could see her! I had a feeling if H actually talked to her he would find out she is actually just sweet and friendly and nothing to be upset about re: the kids! So I am so happy about that and really glad he apparently did keep an open mind about her. But my C is so cool & nice that I had a feeling it would be hard for him to reject her!!! Karen
for my half of the tour!!! So I guess tomorrow I will work on that!!! But I do think it will be a lot of fun on Saturday (and was fun tonight) so I'm glad I agreed to do it! 
