So I already typed an update twice and some how it's gone so i'm starting over with a new thread
H and I had a really good talk. First time I felt like he was really listening to me and didnt get defensive. I told him exactly what i need and expect from him (which I should have done a long time ago and never did). H swears "it's not what I think" Says they are just friends and he knows he needs to cut that off. Says he has not seen her in at least a month other than at work (but has gone to her work to see her), has not stayed at her house and gave her back her house key. Says they dont have any R talks, about them or us. H said he honestly didnt realize he was calling her so much and has not called her since I got the bill. I dont know how much of this I believe but he has been making steps in the right direction to work on our M lately. So I guess I will see. It's only been 2 days but so far he has done the things I have asked of him. I guess now that he knows what I need and expect there are no more excuses. I told him things that pertained to us, our marriage and our family. Didnt get into OW but he knows where I stand there too. I feel a sense of relief after talking with him, just to get this off my chest and out in the open. Plus to hear where he is coming from and what he is thinking good. I am going out of town for a few days so I think it will be a good break for both us. As for the phone bill....it's been about the same past 3 months or so. Havent noticed any changes either way. H swears it will be different next month but I have heard that several times before.
