Oh Sue, cry cry cry. You are entitled today. Not only did OW (blecky) get the undeserved pleasure of meeting your beautiful D4, your H did it behind your back and defended his actions with lame excuses.
Look at your conversation. Sue, you were so very strong, I think you probably surprised the heck out of your H. KUDOS!! I love that you stood up for yourself, for your D4, heck even for your R with H, even if it means that you want to continue to be peaceful with him for D4's sake. You were putting D4 first.
I am just so sorry. Make sure you to remind D4 she did nothing wrong, and that you are happy and that you and Daddy love her. But you already knew that!!!
