W and I now have seperate bank accounts. It feels good to gain control of my money again.
W has always handeled all the bills.
I have told W I need to understand our bills. She is reluctant to discuss them. I believe she wants to keep paying bills from her account. I believe she wants me to save and move out. I need to address this and find out how to keep paying my part of the bills.
Here is my plan: I found out how to access our joint account online. I can review the monthly bills to get an idea of the cash flow and monthly bills.
I can either pay some of the bills from my account, or deposit cash into joint.
If I pay some of the bills this gives me some control back.
ANY OTHER IDEAS???
I just want to warn you of one thing, if your W is paying all of the bills, the grocery's, child care and such, this can come back to bite you. Don't let this happen, she can make it appear that you have not been providing for the family. Just take note of this, it may or may not be the case in your sitch.
