There you go! You provided yourself with a solution. Who needs your stinkin' H? (Needing is different than wanting.) And, you'll also be reaching out to someone else. See if you can do this while your D is in FLA. Perhaps you could offer up an hour or so of your time to volunteer while you're at it?
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09