A little journaling, I picked kids up from school today and W just came and got them. She was here for a little while as I was finishing their dinner when she got here.
I had a call from my mother today to tell me that they had to put my grandfather in the hospital today due to his heart, she will call me later to let me know how serious this is. I told W that I may need to get the kids one day over the weekend to carry them to see him. She says that will be fine and she would like to see him also.
She told me that my grandmother called her a few weeks back and wanted to know if they knew about our sitch. I told her yes, she then said she got a call today from someone we work with to let her know they care alot about the two of us and they would be there for either of us if we needed them. She asked me who else knew? I told her about the mother at the ballpark this weekend who asked me about it. She says "great, everyone will know now." I told her well it has been long enough and I'm surprised others are just finding out.
She then says we need to keep getting along as it will be important for our kids, I said I agree. She says you know we will have our hands full next school year as S10 will be going to middle school. I said I am sure our hands will be full. She asked if I thought the kids were getting along OK. I said I think they have issues as they talk to me about our sitch and it bothers them.
I could have easily backslid today, I kept my composure the whole time, it didn't feel to good saying we need to be friends during this process but I didn't let her see it. In fact I told her "I feel good about where we are right now" and I believe things are going well the way they are. She really didn't have anything to say to this.
I kind of think she was wanting to talk to me about R, and other parts of my think she is just insuring we can be friends during this.
She said she will be calling my mother tonight to find out about my grandfather.
How did I do with this? I believe I handled it correctly.
Wow Ping, dangerous waters you treaded there. That could have turned to R in a heartbeat. I think you played it right. it's a positive that she wants to see your Grandfather I think.
It's funny my W got a little upset that I had told people after I was served w/papers..Don't know why they get upset. Maybe us telling people puts the idea in our W's head that we may just be ready to move on and this makes them upset? I don't know, just a guess. Keep doing what you're doing, no rush, you have plenty of time.
