Welcome aboard. I'm sorry to hear your H wants little to see of his D. My L told me that was the norm for most men who seem to want to detach from their children. I don't get it, but I think it is some type of a male defense mechanism we all have buried w/in us. I'll admit I've thought of quitting and running as well, but I can't and won't. I have to be able to tell my D that I tried everything, so that is why I'm going to do the deposition w/ my W.
As for your filing, I'd be sure you're ready for the consequences and not just use it to get him to react. The hope is he'll react, but the other alternative is he'll accept the D and move further away. Just be careful. I'm in the D stage right now and I hate it. If you can hold off, I'd urge you to do it. However, ultimately, the choice needs to be yours and yours alone.
