Where do...I...go from here?

[cagzmom]

Jeez' I dont know what to tell you. I have a question - here is hte deal..the lawyer --- he is employed by YOU. YOU aren't employed by him. He seems like a real aggressive one and IF it works out for you in court that could be good. BUT remember HE is your employee.

Soooo here is what I suggest. You say H it really is no concern of yours. Or something "nicer" then that. You still have hte lawyer --- you DO need to talk to your lawyer straight up and tell him that all you want to do is PROTECT yourself.

You are going to have to get a job Tp sorry-- but it is the truth...and actually I would actively be looking now.. (I think it would look better to the courts.) I don't knwo how Texas works but in North Carolina alimony is pretty standard....but it wasn't much. Not enough to live.

I guess you need to decide what YOU need. My lawyer was pretty good. Not lots of blue sky....so think about it. What do you need? ALSO by you moving forward to take care of YOU -- well that is a GOOD thing. YOu know ou and i mirror each other in so many ways -- well take it from me. Getting my job and being able to pay my bills...that has been very very good for me.

Look into some thigns that are PROACTIVE for yourself. Also - since you already have retained your lawyer I would stick with him BUT I wuold make sure YOU take the reigns. H will have to show his tax records etc...dont you have that stuff? His pay stubs..all of that stuff you don't need an pi for...it can all be handled by the court.

Remember every state is different...but make sure you start being STRONG -- watch out for you..dont let teh lawyer run you AND since your jerk H is pushing for the D you can stall --- but while stalling you really really need to be watching out for yourself.