To Hope or Not to Hope?

[MichelleLT]

What a hard year it has been for this family. I guess I can't blame my H for wanting to escape. I want to escape, too, sometimes. Of course, he could've found a healthier way to do it. Maybe I escaped in my own unhealthy ways. We both were hurting or scared but didn't cling to each other to get through it.

I am glad you can realize the part you may have played in the R problems without blaming yourself. It's more important to focus on fixing the future than the past (since you can't lol).

We've talked a few times today. He's trying really hard to try to get up here for the baby's birthday party Saturday.

While the universe is not cooperating, I am happy that he wants to be with his family for this.

Anyway, we had to work together as a team today on a few financial issues and lo and behold, we actually WORKED TOGETHER! lol.. without fighting!

Isn't it amazing how that can make such a difference?

One of his biggest complaints about me is that I don't work WITH him when it comes to the money or listen to his advice.

It's funny, because guys try and be the big, strong ones in the family, but their egos are usually very sensitive. When they feel undermined or unappreciated they really get to resent us. I'm still trying to figure out how to talk to my H when we disagree w/o invalidating his idea/opinions.

Joy is that eye of the storm, calm center, that keeps you grounded no matter what is swirling around you. That's what I want for him, with or without me.

That is a very loving and selfless attitude.

I hope that you have a good weekend and that you are able to do more good DBing.

Hang in there.