Hopeful4her: Like you said, one of the options have to be taken away. I feel I may have to go to the extreme. I don't want to but I go on being in limbo like this. It's going on close to a year. Many times I thought she was coming out of the fog, only to be disappointed. My time boundary is getting shorter. She has the best of both worlds, I don't.
The exact way I feel, she has the best of both worlds, I have been thinking of this but haven't posted it yet. W is a stay at home mom, part of my check goes directly to her checking account. This is to be used for foods and whatever else she needs to buy. She knows that when she moves out she will have to have a fulltime job and I'm going to stop these payments. Part of this money will have to go into savings to pay for daycare when kids are out of school next summer. I calculated that if W moves out in Sept 08, I'll have saved enough by May 09 to cover summer program for the kids. If she delays in anyway, I won't have enough to cover the cost.
Do I start telling W in Aug, that she really needs to get the ball rolling and start looking for a fulltime job, because I need her out of the house in Sept like she had planned, so I can start saving for the kids summer program next year ???
I'm going to have to start pushing her for a decision, I need to know so I can plan for the kids, next summer.
Do I just let it go and let her have the best of both worlds and pray she makes a decision some day. - I'm going to start getting nervous in July, if W hasn't given me any indication of what her plans are.
What do we do, push them out, push them for a decision, or wait and look like W's can walk all over us ??? FROM MY POST Page 8
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Hopeful4her: I believe what Jeff is trying to say is , by allowing WW and OM to continue with the affair while still being married, does she lose her respect for him. Like we are thinking that, in her mind, she is thinking My husband says he wants me to stop the affair, but he isn't really doing anything about it. He just lets me keep on doing what I'm doing. How can I respect a man like that? One that will let me do whatever I want.
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M45 W41 D9, D6, D6, S5 M 10 years 2 Dogs, 1 Cat OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 and still going ???
