Stories from the Edge (2)

[seekpeaceofmind]

My response to my family when they'd say they were just trying to help was..
"If he was in the hospital in a coma, would you tell me to leave?"

I have framed things this way with family/friends, too - that I look at this as I would a long-term illness in H. I am lucky that they respect my choices about standing for my marriage - maybe they don't all understand, but they are not trying to push me in any particular direction. I think you wrote a very nice note to your sister and I don't blame you for feeling angry. When I read what she wrote to you

but we have to tell you as we see it - wrong or right. That's our responsibility as mom and sister.

I thought - BS! Sounded kind of bossy to me. I want my family/friends to support me, not tell me what they think is best for me to do - or, even worse, be mad at me because I don't accept or agree with the advice. I guess this is why DB and the other "save your marriage" advice that I've read says not to discuss the sitch with others - hard to do though when it helps so much to talk it out. I have a couple of friends in particular who really "get it" - it feels so good to be understood.