For the guys with kids and a WAW

[hopeful4her]

I know exactly what you are saying. She has had the best of both worlds. We get along so well together when I am not pursuing her. Its when R talk comes up or I started to pursue again, that she starts the leaving and seperation and divorce talk. When I'm not pursuing, she sees me as a great friend. Buying her things, doing things for her. When I start the Love actions or talk, then it goes downhill. She feels tugged from both sides. I know that there is not one thing that she could say about me that is bad.


Again, another thing she told me at the rest. the other day,that he would feel just like I feel right now. Meaning, he is just as heartbroken when he felt like she was pulling away or like when she called him to tell him it was over. I told her, Yes, but you and I have a history. We have built something here. And it could only get better.

Like you said, one of the options have to be taken away. I feel I may have to go to the extreme. I don't want to but I go on being in limbo like this. It's going on close to a year. Many times I thought she was coming out of the fog, only to be disappointed. My time boundary is getting shorter. She has the best of both worlds, I don't.