I make some darn good scrambled eggs, at the same time as bacon and home made pancakes.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
This is very true about men and women. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. But God made us different for a reason.
I even remember watching something about how commercials are made different if they are geared towards men or women. They make sure on men, that there isn't too many different ideas going on at the same time, or something like that.
I mean, do we see guys on the phone talking all the time, us girls can go from one convo to the next and the next and the next... I think that's why texting has been a great tool for guys, it's takes 2 minutes to change a subject texting instead of 2 seconds. lol
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
HI Jack and ST, I'll never look at scrambled eggs the same way again... H was making them yesterday and I had to stop myself from commenting about how his would be better than mine because of his linear thinking!
Hi peace, I think it's a good time for me to re-read DR. You are right about keeping things in for so many months. I guess it's only natural to get angry every now and then.
NA, I like the meditation idea. That helped me a ton, to bring back compassion and a feeling of good will toward my mate. I'd do it every morning. I'd wake up, and then sit quietly in the dark and meditate. I would think about the things that I had to be thankful for, and I would smile upon her face for all that she brought me. All her talents, gifts, qualities.
It took only 15 or 20 minutes each day, but I felt it made a big difference. With that good will inside me, I was able to be more patient. I didn't mind that "today" she did not want to clean the house, or "Today" she wasn't interested in working on our relationship. I was able to think longer term .
Another thing maybe worth considering- if you look at what you WANT, and compare to what you HAVE, then it may be a recipe for disappointment. If on the other hand you look at what you HAVE and are just thankful for what it is - he is physically there with you, you have the opportunity to smile upon his face every day, you are able to hear his voice every day... those are good things.
There are some people who are away from their spouses who would trade you in a minute.
May we all, always see the good in others and in the world.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
Thanks SirPrizeMe. Your post was very touching, all good things to remember. That's why I keep coming to this site. Thanks to everyone for your encouragement, reminders of what's important, etc.
We had a good JC session this morning. We touched on a lot of issues- we both acknowledge that there's still lots of work to do on us. At least he's willing to work now!
NA Its amazing that your H is willing to work on his issues many others spend years still running from the exact thing what a blessing for you and your family peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
That is a great thing to have, being on the same page working together. It's hard, your on two different paths, but they are meeting in the middle, like an upside-down Y.
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Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
