I'm still going to try and have my L keep the questioning on the line of proving I'm a good father rather than she is a bad mother. I'm not planning on mentioning her hysterectomy and what she was "discovering" in her counseling, unless I have to. Instead, I'm going to have him defend me against the abuse charges, the "forcible rape", the non-disciplining of my D, my wanting to bankrupt her for revenge, and things of that nature. I don't want to start a fight, but rather, I'm just looking to defend myself and stand up for me. I'm still uneasy about it, but I'm pretty sure it is what I have to do at this stage. I may never be able to DB again, but I have to focus on taking care of my D and of me before any DBing could ever work.
Not wanting to attack your wife is honorable. Having said that, trust your lawyer's judgement. Let him do what he thinks is necessary to achieve your goal--equal time with your D.
