The flame is flickering out...

[Nutty Chick]

Ah, possibly. I want the community - my extended family - to know what is happening to us, to my nuclear family. My children need their support.

Also be careful even TALKING to friends/family about your situation. It can poison the well for later. You don't want everyone gossiping about yoru situation. You don't want throw your wife under the proverbial bus. Pick a friend, maybe one or two, who you can trust. Ask them to not speak of this to anyone. No gossip. Ask them to just listen to you, but it is IMPERATIVE that they do not talk to anyone else about your troubles. Seriously. Lots of people promise to keep secrets. This is really important that they do.

SirPrize.


I am not having a dig at you.

I really admire the way you can search your soul.

But there are several examples that you have written where you say one thing one day and something else the next.

No ones memory is 100%.

Not your W, not yours.

I get that you are really hurt. you work hard, you have done your best, you have never wanted to hurt your W. But the fact of the matter is she feels hurt.

She wont stop bashing you till you hear what she is saying.

You have your truth .. she has hers. My H and I came to that agreement a long time ago. We respect each others truth .. but we don't accept it; and that OK.

(having said that I agree you have to defend yourself with regards to serious allegations – but to the right people)

Nutty.