I just wanted to stop by and say hello. I meant to post the other evening but didn't get time, but I wanted to say that I don't think 20s is too early for a crisis to hit- some people refer to it as a QLC, and it's a time when individuals question everything about their lives and choices so far. From what I've read, some parts are similar to MLC, but there seems to be less associated anger (although obviously this would differ from case to case). MWD herself says in an article somewhere on the site that a crisis can hit in the 20s too...my H is 29 and has said lots of the same things to me as your H has to you; I'll try to post some illustrations over the weekend.
Either way, I think the principles of DBing remain the same- GAL, try to detach (I know it's hard), and act AS IF around your H. As you'll see already, there is great support here, and some hugely experienced people on this board whose advice is invaluable.
(((((Lea)))))) You still loving your H in spite of the situation is a testament to you being a caring and big-hearted person. That's something to be proud of.
Lisa
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
