The flame is flickering out...

[Nutty Chick]

Everyone of us here has contributed to the break-up of our marriages. We have all done stuff wrong; stuff we regret. We can’t turn the clock back but we can limit the damage we do.

Nuts! I contributed my own humanness to my marriage. At times, I was impatient, obnoxious, inattentive, uncaring. Sometimes I was smelly, crabby or distant. Mostly not, but sometimes. In other words, I was human. Mostly, though, I was attentive, caring, reliable, thoughtful, and loving. MOSTLY. And above all I recognized that there is always more work to do in a marriage. Have I contributed to the downfall of my marriage? By your definition, being in a marriage contributes to its downfall. Sorry, I don't share that perspective.

So you are totally denying that the fact that your: temper. controlling behaviour and the fact that you have been scary towards your children not to mention the above was just your ‘humanness’ and could not possibly have contributed to your W feelings towards you changing over time?


In that case ..surely your W infidelity was just her humanness?

I did not have an EA, nor a PA. I did not gamble. I was no drunk. I showed up on time. I brought home the money. I was the soccer coach. I drove a station wagon. I bought new DVD players after they were jammed with PB&J sandwiches. I painted and colored with my girls. I went hiking with my boys. I asked my wife on dates. I kept myself in good physical shape for her. I was polite and never called her names. I bought her presents and wrote her poetry. I shared family responsibilities with her equitably. I scrubbed toilets and supported her leadership on family finances. I was a father and a husband.

So why do you think her feelings for you changed?

Problem is, if at this time I don't prove that I am right and my wife is wrong... I will lose my children. That is what she is working toward right now.

I will drop the right-v-wrong when I have secured custody of my kids.

I agree you need to prove your innocence through the correct channels. However, you will alienate your wife further if you keep harassing her friends and family.


Are you hoping to get custody of your children from your W?



Nutty