I don't know what he would have done and he hasn't had to figure that out yet. Half of me thinks I should make him figure that out, but then the other half says the kids would have to suffer. And, I don't work, so I don't exactly have a good excuse to not do it when our financial situation hasn't changed (ie, his paycheck pays the bills and my role is to stay home).

He invited me to come by earlier in the morning tomorrow because he's going to make a big breakfast for the kids. Do I listen to my therapist who says to back off or do I take him up on his offer?

Just got back from the therapist who thinks I need to detach some more. She's probably right.


Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.