I was so busy yesterday and today has been hectic as well. I'm finally able to sit down and recap the events from yesterday (eventhough I should be correcting these AP History 2nd semester study guides, but I can always get back to that in a second...).
So, I last told you about the BRATZ doll text and then seeing the letters from her parents, sister and the OM all using 2nd-hand information that wasn't true. It hurt and still stings a bit, but I did move on. The real trick will be in weathering the upcoming storm I'll be getting from W very soon.
I had sent her a reply e-mail on the doll telling her I'd not be buying her another one as I now know she disaproves of it and she sent a reply thanking me for acknowledging her concerns about the doll and then asked again "didn't you think it looked slutty?" I answered her w/ "I really wasn't focusing on the doll as I just grabbed it and paid for it." No reply on that.
I met w/ my L for an 1 1/2 hours yesterday afternoon and we went over everything I had thus far. He said he didn't find any "smoking guns" in any of the e-mails which was a good thing for us. He also suggested that we depose W and get her to state her claims about me on the record. I wish we didn't have to do this process, but she's painting a very negative and extremely untrue picture of who I am, so I really don't have much choice.
Now I'm preparing for the explosion that is sure to come from W when she finds out she's being called in w/ her L to the office of my L to give her deposition about what she's written and told people. I'll be there w/ my L and there will be a court reporter on hand to take down everything for the legal record. It will be expensive (about $4-$5K), but I think I need to get it done to clear up the record.
I'm still going to try and have my L keep the questioning on the line of proving I'm a good father rather than she is a bad mother. I'm not planning on mentioning her hysterectomy and what she was "discovering" in her counseling, unless I have to. Instead, I'm going to have him defend me against the abuse charges, the "forcible rape", the non-disciplining of my D, my wanting to bankrupt her for revenge, and things of that nature. I don't want to start a fight, but rather, I'm just looking to defend myself and stand up for me. I'm still uneasy about it, but I'm pretty sure it is what I have to do at this stage. I may never be able to DB again, but I have to focus on taking care of my D and of me before any DBing could ever work.
After the L, I went to the gym and got a good workout. While I was exercising, D called one minute apart and left me some messages to call her. I rang her up at 7:15 and we talked for about 7 minutes. W called at 8:30 to tell me D had accidentially said the "f-word" and didn't know why it was bad as she was working on the "f/ph" sound in her phonics work. W kept saying on the phone, "I just want Daddy to know so he won't yell at you if you say it on accident."
I told D that I wouldn't yell at her if she said a bad word, but I'd just remind her that we don't say those words and why. I even got W to verbally say "Daddy won't yell at you D" at one point, but usually she kept using the phrase "so Daddy won't yell at you" or "so Daddy won't get mad at you."
I kept politely correcting W telling her I don't yell at D and wouldn't when it was appropriate. Overall, I just tried to calm down D and reassure her she wasn't in trouble b/c I know she's a very good girl who tries really, really hard all the time to be good and that I love her very much.
We hung up and I began working on correcting the AP US History 2nd Semester Study Guides so I could get them back to tomorrow so they can study for their upcoming test on Friday, May 9th. That is a HUGE task that kept me up way too late (and I just finished today), so I'm very tired today.
So, that is where I'm at. I've got some of my family writing me letters of recommendation that stick to the facts only and discuss what they've witnessed personally of me as a person, husband, and father. Those should be coming in to me in the next few days, so I'll add them to the ones I've sent in already. I didn't go w/ family writing letters b/c of their potential bias, but since W is submitting some, I might as well too. The difference will be mine will be factual and not hearsay.
I'm uneasy about desposing her legally, but I have to keep remembering that this is what she created, not me. I'm playing by her rules in this game and they aren't the ones I was hoping for. However, this is the game we're playing now, so I need to play to win. The ultimate prize is fair time w/ my D, so there is no way I can quit and no way I can't take this step.
I'm wondering when the other shoe will drop from W. She should be hearing about the deposition today sometime.
