Originally Posted By: klm
He is guilting you into things...although I am betting you already know that.


You are SOOO right, Kris!!!

This is how I ALWAYS feel. I feel guilty everytime I ask for something. Doesn't matter what either. I feel like I have no place or position to be asking for anything. Ever. UNLESS it's something for H or for the kids. If it's got anything to do with me, I'm made to feel as though I'm asking for too much.

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Have you two actually sat down and talked about how many nights is appropriate to have friends over?


Yes, we've talked about this once (2 or 3 weeks back), and the response I got from H was, "They're my friends, and when I need help, they're here. When they need help, I help them out in return."

Perfectly understandable and that's great, but they're not here for help or to help EVERYTIME that they're here. They're here mostly to just hang out. But I'm wrong for feeling it should be limited. I'm wrong because it's controlling - I'm "stealing" his joy.

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It will be here before you know it. Both of you really need to sit down and talk about this. Especially if you are thinking of following through with it if nothing changes. He needs to know this and have time to show you that he can do what you ask.


I know this. Just not looking forward to it at all.

I might wait another week before having this talk, and until then, see what kind of progress we make, if any. Also give things one more month, from now, to hopefully change for the better. If not, well either way, I will have my answer as to whether to continue with the D or not.

Michelle, it looks like I started this post while you were posting to me....I've had to stop here and there for S3 ! Anyway, I will respond soon. Gotta get off now to do some things before picking up the boys from school. \:\)

Last edited by GoingForward; 05/01/08 07:41 PM.
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