Thanks for the suggestions. I do the daily or twice daily phone calls with the wife. We have always done this since we were first married. The daily de-brief for us could be improved a bit. The wife is usually trying to have supper hit the table as I walk through the door so the kids have some time to digest etc before bed. This would probably be a good place to start. Week day evenings. Again, this is probably a good one for us to work harder on. Due to our schedules we usually have between 30-45 minutes after the kids go down before we do. BUT, this is something I can change about our time spent. Dates. Tough subject. Used to do, now can't afford. We are generally out of money within a week of payday due to extreme debt load from business and medical. This is going to sound shallow, but after multiple years of dating and my wife figuring out a way to be asleep by the time I drop off the sitter (including when times were better) this will be low on my list. I realize sex should not be the goal, but by God it sometimes shoud be the result! Regular get aways. We have done this a few times. Often they were pretty good and resulted in three of three kids. I will not invest time or money on this until I begin to see a shift in her and our money situation. I am sorry, this one is mostly about sex. There is no other reason to get a hotel room in the same city where you live. Call me shallow, but I can stay at home and talk!
