Kiki
I was reading part of your thread and I loved Surprize me post
I think also when they get rid of us they think the pain will stop
and maybe when it doesnt, they try harder to get rid of us
but it doesnt work and it is totally insane, but they left for the same reason, we were the cause of their pain and they mediacated the pain all this time with OW, spending, recreation, fun ,work drugs ect nothing worked
but have they ever really faced the pain head on or are they still in a form of running maybe they faced a little of it then ran more and have done a dance to avoid doing what the crises is about. feeling, growing and changing themselves...
this may be the one last attempt to avoid
if he treats you this way, maybe the pain will diminish since you are cause so he will wipe you out of his life,,he may belive this on some level
you may represent a parent or another person from his wounded past that he cant face
just a thought
peace


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D final 3 /09
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