Ready2Change (II) - Detached

[Ready2Change]

W and I now have seperate bank accounts. It feels good to gain control of my money again.

W has always handeled all the bills.

I have told W I need to understand our bills. She is reluctant to discuss them. I believe she wants to keep paying bills from her account. I believe she wants me to save and move out. I need to address this and find out how to keep paying my part of the bills.

Here is my plan:
I found out how to access our joint account online. I can review the monthly bills to get an idea of the cash flow and monthly bills.

I can either pay some of the bills from my account, or deposit cash into joint.

If I pay some of the bills this gives me some control back.

ANY OTHER IDEAS???