I get sucked in as well Karen so don't feel bad, but I'm going to print out the post from GF and put it next to my phones as I need to become a less available "woman of mystery."
I have no mystery either, so don't feel bad and I need to keep coming here to see what real GAL is all about.
You are wonderful and deserve only the best. Once we accept that in ourselves, this all becomes a lot easier. Have a great day and work the black sexy outfit on Saturday...totally YAY YOU!!!!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
You sound like u are doing so well. My h does not talk to me at all, no texts, emails or phone calls but when he comes to see d he asks what I am up to that day and if I answer vaguely he gets angry so how do we be mysterious without looking revengeful and pissing them off?
Fine line this mystery thing, I say off to visit some friends - translated into going to visit parents or off to the local food store, not being whisked away by hunk on white stallion!
Hey Karen, I know on here somewhere I have seen the stages of MLC but now can't find them. Can you tell me how to find them on this site? Thanks bunches! kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sideswiped-that is tough trying to be friendly and mysterious! I am going to try to just be out and about or whatever to make the whole thing easier! And when I am here I'll workout upstairs or clean (he hangs out downstairs.) So I'll keep in shape & get a nice-looking house! Plus my worst weakness is emailing H and now if it's not related to the kids, I'm not gonna do it. I guess just GALing and acting as if I am too busy (and trying to be really busy) to email or chat with H is the impression we should give maybe?
Kat-I can never find the 6 stages either, but I've checked them about a dozen times. I finally bookmarked them recently and I've got: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=423996&site_id=1#import I think my H is currently in the Anger & Replay stages (they can overlap apparently)! But from reading that, it sounds like my H will be in MLC for 2 years or so!
I was talking to the theatre manager today and he had directed H in a play around the time he started the PA and H was talking about getting a divorce with the theatre mgr. who has already been divorced and apparently H was saying such dumb, inaccurate stuff about what divorce will be like the mgr. told me he was thinking, "I can't believe this guy is an attorney!" I think H's MLC has dropped his IQ by about 20-30 points!!!
So I found out tonight that I will be a ghost during the first part of the tour and then the tour guide for the 2nd half of the tour. And when the theatre mgr. told me yesterday, don't worry, it'll be scripted--he meant that I would be writing the script for my half of the tour!!! So I guess tomorrow I will work on that!!! But I do think it will be a lot of fun on Saturday (and was fun tonight) so I'm glad I agreed to do it!
I almost forgot to mention I got good news tonight before I left. My C called and she had talked to my H about her continuing to see the kids (which he said he did not want anymore this weekend). Joie, (I think you were really right on target with some of your comments--wasn't it you that posted you thought maybe H was jealous of her b/c he thinks she is controlling me now instead of H (but that isn't really true). She never tells me what to do or anything, but when I tell her what I want to do she always is really supportive. I do think maybe H is also angry about me standing up to him now and not letting him run all over me!
Anyway, my C said he was negative when she started talking to him (I'm not surprised)but apparently by the end of the conversation H agreed the kids could see her! I had a feeling if H actually talked to her he would find out she is actually just sweet and friendly and nothing to be upset about re: the kids! So I am so happy about that and really glad he apparently did keep an open mind about her. But my C is so cool & nice that I had a feeling it would be hard for him to reject her!!! Karen
Karen, I tried to look back and see what play you are going to do now and can't find it. I'm sure I'm overlooking it. Please fill me in, sounds like lots of fun. I'm envious. I'm not sure I would have the guts to get in front of people like you do. You are awesome!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Hi Yoyo! Not a play--but the theatre manager called and asked me to be one of the 2 tour guides on the Haunted Theatre Tour they are having Saturday during our town's annual festival. I found out I will also be playing a ghost during the first half of the tour. Apparently one of the ghosts that haunts the theatre looks a little like me!
And Yoyo, the theatre has been great for me. I was so shy and I would have been too scared to do this kind of stuff a year ago I'm sure! Doing the play has given me some extra self-confidence I think! Karen
Haha Yoyo! (I looked for a smiley with rolling eyes and I didn't see one)!
I think I did pretty good today DB wise. I am only emailing H when kid- or bill-related, so emailed H twice today one time for kids and one bill-related. I took the kids to a Latinfest they were having in our town late afternoon. Then I made dinner, did a little housework, and H got here. I did talk to him friendly as usual but limited it to about 2 minutes which is shorter than I can usually ever talk to anyone! Then I went upstairs (while H and the kids stayed downstairs) and wrote my script for the tour tomorrow (7 pages I may have to cut it shorter if it is longer than 15 minutes, but I think that may be about right) and then I worked out. By the time I came down 30 minutes ago to do laundry H had put the kids to bed & left. Karen
Thanks Yoyo! Today I played a ghost on the first half of our haunted tour, and a tour guide for the 2nd half of the tour. The most fun I think was playing the ghost and scaring the kids (luckily none were that young or got too scared.) It was 5 hours which doesn't sound like that long, but I'm pretty tired tonight.
I laid down (I was really tired) when I got home and about 10 minutes later H and the kids came home after spending the afternoon swimming & D8 lost a tooth (but luckily they found it so the tooth fairy can visit tonight ). H came in to my room just for a minute to tell me he had left money for groceries so I could shop tomorrow and that was it.
I got up and have spent the evening with D8 and S14 and we are all tired! Hope everyone is having a good weekend! Karen
for my half of the tour!!! So I guess tomorrow I will work on that!!! But I do think it will be a lot of fun on Saturday (and was fun tonight) so I'm glad I agreed to do it! 