Quack Quack...

[JenInVen]

Thanks CW for the new mantra!!!

Had my first session with C today. He's great and very pro marriage and I like that he's not concerned with what's in the past but how to live for today and change for the future. I think he'd love this BB because he said so much that fits squarely with the principles expressed here.

Jen

[cw68]

I tell myself "quack quack" all the time. It's really good simple words for me and they have replaced the rubber band I used to wear on my wrist.

Now go quack yourself silly!

[Edge]

Congrats on finding a good counselor. It is hard to find one that doesn't advise to just move on. You have gotten lucky. Keep on quacking.

[addie]

Jen, I'm glad you had a good counselling session. I agree with Edge - it is very difficult to find a counsellor that doesn't advise to just move on. Continue the IC to work through your own issues - I'm sure it will help you a great deal.

[JenInVen]

Thanks. It's funny because he's the first one I called. He's not big on going back to your past and seeing what went wrong/right but he's interested in looking at behaviour patterns and habits that do/don't work and either fixing them or enforcing them.

I have some issues that I hope we can work on. We discussed some yesterday but I'm going to take this week and write some things down. He said we'll work with a contract where he'll commit by giving me support and being my guide and all I have to commit to is changing. Sounds good.

H and D are still in Florida. They are having a great time and I've been in contact with them quite a bit.

Jen

[JenInVen]

Gosh, I'm have a pity me day today. It's a holiday here and I'm sitting around doing nothing.

I know what I need to do (make friends, GAL) but it's so hard to get on track. Everyone seems to already have their group of friends and with the language barrier combined with my pickiness I feel doomed to be like this.

I can't seem to get past the lies (whether by ommission or flat out) that H has told me. I can't tell whats the truth and whats a lie anymore. Seems to be too many coincidences to be true in my sitch.

I'm kind of angry but also very dissappointed that this is going on. I wish I could fix it all today but I can't. It amazes me how people can go through their sitch and stand for their Ms for 2 or 3 years. How do they do it?

Jen

[cw68]

When I visited a family friend in Madrid one year, she took me to Friday's for a meeting of her "Americans in Madrid" club. (Yes, Friday's in Spain, when I wanted to see the real Spain.) Is there a similar group you could join? Nancy joined it right when she moved there because there was an instant commonality, everyone had the same language issues and there were things already set up to do.

I haven't a clue how people can go on for so long. Half of me thinks this has gone on too long already, but the other half just doesn't want to throw any chance away.

Chin up. Go for a brisk walk and clear out the cobwebs. 10 minutes quickly around the block will do you wonders.

[addie]

Jen,
I'm sure it's a difficult day for you without D. I know how you feel because I have no family or friends here, being new to the city. Try and get out for a walk, organize your house, take a bubble bath, have a nap, read...
The day will go by quickly and before you know it H and D will be back from their trip.

[JenInVen]

Hi Guys

Thanks for stopping by you always left my spirits.

Actually there is a Hash House Harriers here. I thought of going on one of their excersions before. Maybe now is a great chance. When CW mentioned the Americans in Spain group I remembered the Hashers.

I've been gutting out D's room and still haven't finished. It's something i've wanted to do for 6 months and finally have a chance. It's amazing how much a child can accumulate in just 6 years.

Jen

[One Day]

Hey Jen,

Just stopping in. Love the Hashers idea- sounds like it could be great GAL. And gutting D's room- that must be sooooo satisfying!

L.xx