The decision is made

[ACJ]

W2 & AH,
Thanks for your support. Even before I had read your posts I had spoken to S15 explaining that I am no longer in a position to pay for 'extra's'. It made me feel so bad. He was banking on me paying out to hire him a tux and for his 'share' of the limo that one of his friends have hired to get them to their school prom. I had to explain to him that with such a reduction in maintenance this was no longer possible. He wasn't happy b/c as he so rightly says H will not want to pay for these. He did ask if I could contribute but I had to point out to him that for similar things for his sisters H had not contributed and I had had to go it alone. He said he understood but I felt so bad about having to have this convo. I even phoned him back later to tell him how bad I felt and he said he knew.

H did contact the music teacher and he did feed back to me but only b/c I insisted on it.

What's so interesting about all of this is that H is being forced to communicate with me even though he doesn't want to and already I can tell he is not very happy with that.

AH,
I have already let the school know that S15 is staying with his dad at the moment but clearly the message has not sunk in.