One was from S15s music teacher - again. He was saying how urgent it was that he heard from me. I immediately called H and asked him if he had called last week when he was supposed to and he said he had forgotten! I was so angry but I held it back and just asked him to deal with it today. I even had to give him the number again! I have spent so long building up a good R with school over S15s truancy and lack of effort in his work and H has ruined it in just one short week.
Oh this must be so incredibly frustrating. Plus, it is bad, bad, bad for s15. I hate it when my S15 is with his dad, and comes home having been out for dinner, but not having done all of his homework. I can just imagine how this feels to you.
Have you thought through the pros and cons of contacting all of S15's teachers, tutors, etc. and telling them that he is temporarily living with his dad, and here is dad's cell phone, email and phone #. I'm sure there is a downside to this, but it was my immediate response. You can't make dad be a real parent. But he can have to field all the calls and complaints. Just a thought, it may be a stupid one!
I'm with w2s, I think it is good to get it all out here. After all none of us really knows how to do this, and those of us with teens can use all the support we can get!
