I had a nice appt. as usual with my C this morning. I basically explained that I want to LRT with my H and just talk to him only on matters about the kids and not all the other divorce-related stuff we've been arguing about lately. She said I should say things like: It is my decision about where I live, and your decision to make about where you live. And other divorce stuff that will have to go through mediation and/or divorce court, I should just say we'll work on that later, unless it is related to the kids because we probably aren't going to resolve anything anyway we have such different views so it's pointless arguing.
I printed out a post GF made on grumpy's site (thanks GF!) re: this and intend to read it & remind myself every day b/c that is so hard for me!!! Karen
I basically explained that I want to LRT with my H and just talk to him only on matters about the kids and not all the other divorce-related stuff we've been arguing about lately. She said I should say things like: It is my decision about where I live, and your decision to make about where you live. And other divorce stuff that will have to go through mediation and/or divorce court, I should just say we'll work on that later, unless it is related to the kids because we probably aren't going to resolve anything anyway we have such different views so it's pointless arguing. 
Karen
