BT, I understand that some of the things I may say are hard to swallow, but I swear to you, my intent is not to hurt you in any way.
In the begining of my Husband's MLC, I made many mistakes and had to learn so much through trial and error. I don't want to see anyone go through the things I had to experience.
This is a process, it is learning a new technique and like all new things it takes practice. Right now you are still in shock, your life has been turned upside down and everthing you knew has been changed. You are now living in survival mode.
Once you get your footing, things will calm down. Go read Dad Not Quitting's threads, it may give you a clue as to how bad MLC'ers get.
Hang in there, and take care of yourself for now, and leave your wife out to twist in the wind.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
