I will consider your thoughts. Maybe you are right. She just told me she did not want me to buy the house but wanted me to rent one near by. Maybe because she may want me back someday and without the commitment of a owned home? Things are so wierd. Thanks for your thoughts.
My W told my son last night that she would give him his cell phone back if he told Dad that Mom did not manhandle him. Nice work! Put the kid in the middle. So the kid comes into my room w Mom and says I am sorry. I asked what for and he said not going to school and proceeds to say that Mom should not have hit him. I asked why he was saying this now, after 5 days, he said that Mom said she would give him his cell phone back.
NICE!!!!
Liar, Cheater, Child abuser, verbal husband abuse, bribery. Why did I buy a house close by?
We now have appts to go to Family, Parent counciling which i think is fantastic. At least Sally can see our side of the story from a moderator. My Psych said she has major issues and really needs to get to work on them.
My Psych said she has major issues and really needs to get to work on them.
Has your psych met your W?
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
BND, althought I don't like some of the things you say and suggest sometimes the truth hurts. Your are right on here. We need a break badly.
I need to be the grown up.
Nutty: she refuses to vist my Psych and he will not meet with her. All I tell him is the dead on truth I promise. His latest advise is what BND is saying about. Don't fight the windmill Don Quoxita.
BT, I understand that some of the things I may say are hard to swallow, but I swear to you, my intent is not to hurt you in any way.
In the begining of my Husband's MLC, I made many mistakes and had to learn so much through trial and error. I don't want to see anyone go through the things I had to experience.
This is a process, it is learning a new technique and like all new things it takes practice. Right now you are still in shock, your life has been turned upside down and everthing you knew has been changed. You are now living in survival mode.
Once you get your footing, things will calm down. Go read Dad Not Quitting's threads, it may give you a clue as to how bad MLC'ers get.
Hang in there, and take care of yourself for now, and leave your wife out to twist in the wind.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Nutty: she refuses to vist my Psych and he will not meet with her. All I tell him is the dead on truth I promise.
BT,
Just a bit weird for your psych to comment on your W when he has never met her. What he is hearing is your interpretation of her behaviour.
In mine and my H situation there are two versions of 'TRUTH'(his and mine) The real truth is probably bang smack in the middle.
Check out Sleepers thread. He is turning his situation round beautifully.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
Thanks guys, you are great. Nutty, I do understand.
BND: Unfortunitly I must get out of the house to a safe place and create a safe place for her. The kids do not need to hear us all day long. for now we need to separate.
