It's been so long since I posted on my thread, that it's no longer there, so I had to start a new one.
Basically I've been in a new relationship for 4 months now. It was about 3 years since the end of the big one of which I came onto this site in the first place.
I am being very aware in this new relationship and I wanted some help in some areas.
SO, I find that what I'm doing with this guy is pushing him away and then pulling him back again.
I really like this guy's personality and I think he has a really good heart. As with everyone, there are a few issues.
I would really like to recieve more attention from this guy. When we are together everything is great, but I feel like we've reached a place where our relationship isn't moving closer or forward.
1. He can't say that he loves me though he cares for me, he wants to reserve this for when he knows for certain that he's with the person he wants to marry.
2. He has a roommate who is a female. They have been friends for 10 years. She is in love with him. She will ask him ahead of time for dinner or something and he will always check with me first, but he will have a night with her. I really don't care if he has her as a friend. I'm not concerned about his feelings for her. But she will never join us when we invite her and I am not welcome to join them.
I think these things are preventing the attention I want and us moving forward. He waits too long to call and then when he finally does i'm in a pissy mood, which pushes him away and has him call me less. I think the fact that he is getting his needs met elseware, aka his roommate, makes him less pursuant of me.
I've spoken to him before and said that when he emails me I always respond, but when I email him back, sometimes it's like he's just lost in Siberia because he doesn't respond back at all.
Now he took a job out of state for an extended, but temporary time. I mentioned before he took this job out of state that it would help me out if we made efforts to stay connected. So therefore, I don't want to ask this guy to call or text or email me more. I think that this is what he has to offer and if it's not good enough for me, I should move on.
THe problem is it took me a long time to find a guy that I really had feelings for. And also we have so much in common, have so much fun and he truly is a really good guy...
Instead of accepting him as is, I'm remaining in limbo. I'm not rejecting him, I'm not accepting him, I'm staying with him and getting pissy when he doesn't fulfill my expectations. That's not fair for either of us.
I know there are people who need to hear from their SO much less than I do, but I also think that I really want a very close relationship...
