Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

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WOW - I love all the help.

RWS - great, great posts. Thank you. Last night H called to ask how the Dr. appt went. I waited an hour and texted back that it went fine, she was good, but breach (for now). And, I told him about my next appt on Friday. He just said "ok" I didn't respond. Then he called to talk about specifics at the appointment. He asked me what I did the night before and I told him that I went to the Angel game. Then he asked with who. I dodged it, first by telling him to hold on and walked away from the phone, then I totally started a new subject when I came back. H said he needed to call me back in a half hour. I said, "I probably won't answer. I'm going to bed." That's a first for me. Usually, I just say "ok".

Don't worry about offending me, usually it stings at first, then I'm over it. Blunt is fine. Ask Nik.
I am taking care of baby and I, first and foremost. I am actually having days where I don't give a sh!t about what H is doing or the sitch. It feels great. Now, those times are usually pretty short, but I am having more of them. That's a positive step to me.
As for the OW - if you read through my thread, you can see that she seems a bit desperate. She has 2 kids from a guy who would not marry her (wonder why). She moved my H (married man with prego wife) into her apt from day 1, he pays no rent, no utilities and no food. He spends all his money on toys and what he owes me. So, I'm not really sure what her story is, but I can't imagine that she's some prize. Sorry if that seems petty or bitter, but if the shoe fits.

I would not withold info about the baby from H. As a matter of fact, I told him that he could be as involved in the prenancy as he wants. In the beginning, he was great. He came to every appointment and checked up on me often. Now, he doesn't come to appointments and rarely asks how things are going. I tell him about each appointment, so he is aware when they are. He chooses NOT to attend. But, part of me wonders if that is partially due to pressure from OW.

Clarify what issue you think OW might be pushing? You stated that she might push the issue and It could come back to get me. Knowing that she has 2 children of her own, that do not live with her, she doesn't have them on the weekends, either. I'm not sure how much contact she actually has with them or why they don't live with her. I know that they are with their grandparents or their father the majority of the time. I can't imagine that she wants to care for my child. But, it's a scary possibility that I am keeping an eye on and trying to prepare as much as possible.

FG - good call and as a matter of fact, I am going to document the missed appointment, as well as all the purchases I have made where H has NOT contributed (crib, bedding, diapers, etc) just in case it helps at all.

I hate that our dream to start a family has turned into this. We tried soooo hard for Kendall, to get her here. I can't even imagine where his head is at that he is willing to throw it away.