If she's smart, she'll want to stay married just to see what OM is about. Surely she doesn't want to be used by him. ****** You should expect to have arguments with her if you discuss these things. What about that was surprising?
Yes, but I don't think a lot of people going through MLC and/or affairs ARE smart!!! My H is just realizing now that he will have less money after the divorce. He used to tell me stuff like he would have more money after the divorce (although we have twice the expenses) and he'll have more time at his job for some reason although it is the same job that he has never been able to take off for the last 8 years, and those kind of thoughts. Kind of delusional and not very smart thinking process in my opinion. I mean if they were really using their brain cells they wouldn't be having affairs I think!!!
I have been having lots of arguments with my H recently (in person and email!) and have decided not to do that anymore. I think it just makes it easier for them to divorce us when we fall into that trap. I am just going to talk about the kids or kid-related discussions and nothing else (well try my best anyhow). I am going to tell him we can work the issues out later (which we will do if we have mediation and/or divorce court) or if we reconcile (doubtful though) we of course wouldn't have to figure out alimony and other divorce-related issues. My C today was saying our arguments are mostly pointless at this point, and I agree.
I am going to tell him we can work the issues out later (which we will do if we have mediation and/or divorce court) or if we reconcile (doubtful though) we of course wouldn't have to figure out alimony and other divorce-related issues. My C today was saying our arguments are mostly pointless at this point, and I agree. 