Patience is key

[addie]

H called twice yesterday. First time in the afternoon when he told me he had signed up for the motorcycle course and is getting his license. The course starts next week. At 45, classic MLC!!!
Then he called at about 11:30 p.m. when I was getting ready for bed. He had gone to a coaches' awards dinner and it sounded like he'd had a few beers.
He talked about the prospective job, the new city, S11. Then he said "If you and I get back together, I'm going to need major counselling". It's the second time in the last few days he's brought up counselling. I replied "You should get counselling even if we don't get back together. You need to do it for yourself." I then went on and talked about how I'm trying to get to a place of healing but that it does take time. I told him the books I've read have helped me understand and deal with our sitch. He asked me about some of the books. I told him not all the ones I've read have been helpful. I made the same point about counsellors, that there are a lot of counsellors that are not good. I told him I have looked deep inside myself, am learning from what's happened and am becoming a stronger person.
He then quickly said he had to go. I probably said too much and scared him off.