Oh that is so sad to hear Kissak! I thought she was getting better with that too since I didn't read much about it lately. MLCers definately seem to be in their own world and can't comprehend what it is they're doing to their family. Even when I read what you just wrote about your H wanting to make sure it just won't work with OW before he commits to you.....HELLO!..... shouldn't he be doing that with his wife instead of this trash??? Grrrr!
Thanks Dar....my daughter was doing ok for a little while, but then EOG's have started coming at school and all this with her dad....her meds really havent been helping that much. She is probably always going to have a short cute pixie hair cut, which she is lucky because it fits her.
AND YOUR RIGHT!! He should be doing that with his wife and not the OW....would make sense wouldnt it?
I dont know what it is....I am a great catch! I have this guy that stops by twice a week to deliver stuff to me and he is always saying how this is his most favorite shop to stop by because I am so nice and sweet...I think he flirts with me alot...he is about 10 years older than me, but it is always so nice to be paid attention to....Why cant my H see what he is losing?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Isn't it a shame? We LBS have the morals NOT to flirt, etc when we're left behind holding up everything and everyone else. Sometimes I wish I had the nerve to go out and meet someone.. but I know that it would only make me miserable and feel tremendous guilt and I don't need that in addition to the rest of this mess.
I just got D's school pictures back yesterday. Maybe wearing hats, bandanas, etc isn't such a bad idea. The people that do the pictures sure don't fuss much about the kids' hair anyway. D wore a headband to school that day since it matched her bermuda shorts (same material and pattern). They have her eats sticking out from the headband being pushed forward. It's still cute, but I know and her family knows her ears don't look like that. Sooooo, babbling, if your D feels bad or self-consciece about wearing head gear for pics, tell her not too since she won't have to worry about having her hair perfect then!
Thanks Dar...she is very self concious about her friends seeing her hair, because some of the kids who really arent her friends will tease her...they dont realize she cant help it...it is a disease. Kids can be so mean.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Kids can be very mean for sure. The bullies will learn though if something gets turned around on them and someone treats them like they've treated others. 11 is a hard enough age as it is without those little pests bugging your D about this.
kissak- I'm so sorry about the effect this is having on your d. Have you told your h about it recently? This should be the main topic of your ongoing conversations, not your R, not the OW, not if he knows what he want to do. I would say (or email) something to the effect that you do not appreciate his badmouthing you to the children, esp. when d has a disorder that's stress-related. I would flat out tell him that since the latest round of emails between him and d, d has started pulling out her hair again. I would also tell him that you and he need to put together a plan to minimize the effect of your S on your children. I know that the kids are your main priority, but you have to let him know that you need his help too. Hugs..
Thanks New attitude....an email explaining that might be good...i did tell him that I didnt want to argue with him and the main concern was my children. He said the same, but doesnt see the effect on the kids like i do. My daughter is sweet and loving and even last night when my son called his dad, my Daughter said "tell daddy I love him but I dont want to talk to him". He isnt arguing with her about not wanting to stay, but he thinks she will get over it or use to it in time.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Well, My H texted me tonight at my sons game to wish him a good game. He also told me he sent me an email. It said he didnt want to fight and be mad at each other. He told me he was sorry.
It made me feel better that he apologized.
I dont like being angry at someone and I dont think he likes it either. Anyway, I feel at peace a little tonight.
My son's ball team lost his first game in 2 seasons. The team was so upset. But I think it was time they lose to see what it feels like...they might go a little easier on the losing team next time.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
My daughter is still set this morning on not seeing her daddy or talking to him.
He didnt call this am, but sent a text after the kids had already left for school asking me to tell them he loved them.
I am dreading tomorrow. I will have to see him. Im not sure how I am going to handle it. I want to cry even thinking about it.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Sooooo, babbling, if your D feels bad or self-consciece about wearing head gear for pics, tell her not too since she won't have to worry about having her hair perfect then!