I believe H gets closer to OW when he feels bad. So if they are rhe drug how is that feeling supposed to return???
Stop making him feel like he 'needs' her for support.
If you have a row with him...who does her turn to? HER. He probably goes to her with all his worries and concerns and she makes him feel better.
I KNOW this happened with my H.
We had a big argument and he phoned OW straight away and told her all about it. (a good friend of mine works with H and witnessed the whole situation)
That was enough for me to vow to never to row with him again. If he wants to bond with OW aver something, it wasn’t going to be me.
I gave him nothing to complain about so when he phoned or went round to hers and she asked if he had heard from me, he had no exciting story to tell her. It was either nothing or arrangements for our son.
Pull the plug on his drama and let him find something else to entertain OW with.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.