I have had a read through your thread and you have shown some real insight and ownership about the way you behaved in your marriage. However it doesn’t seem that you ‘get’ the effect that this has had on your wife. It seems that you are quite angry with your W for protecting herself from what she preserves as abuse.
I also notice that even though you are not allowed to talk to your wife directly that you have been talking to her friends and family about the situation, you must realise that this will get back to her. You must realise that she will be hurt by what you are saying.
Everyone of us here has contributed to the break-up of our marriages. We have all done stuff wrong; stuff we regret. We can’t turn the clock back but we can limit the damage we do. You are a lot further ahead than most as you are able to look at your own shortcomings quite openly and honestly. It would be good to see you dropping the need to prove who is right and wrong. Let go, rise above it and find forgiveness for yourself and your wife.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
