Today was a pretty good day, S10 had ball practice tonight and I helped out with it. W was there and was sitting on the bleachers with other parents right behind where I was at so we had some good interactions. We talked about how S7's coach kept calling his name last night and telling him to make the plays, we both found that strange as it appeared our son was the only one being coached this way. She asked if that is the reason I left early last night, I told her no and left it at that.
It feels good to have conversations about things without worrying about feeling rejected, no pressure on either side. I can tell she is much more comfortable and not worrying about me bringing anything up.
I really hope I am making progress, she stated in the beginning of this that she wanted to keep everything professional so this is in the back of mind somewhat that the only reason she is being nice is so we can keep this all professional. I will not dwell on this as time will tell.
I pick kids up tomorrow from school so I will see W again tomorrow and S7 has a ballgame Friday night.
Patience, patience, patience, that is the only thing we all have to go on in these type of sitches.
Ping's just scoring from everywhere. You're getting UP and Down when you need to...keep it up buddy. I am really impressed.
Remember my fishing analogy?? Don't horse that big fish in, play it nice and slow.
Thanks GD, Addie and R2C for stopping by. Things are going pretty well on my end and really the only thing that changed was my attitude toward the sitch which seemed to change W's attitude about the sitch. It goes to show, change yourself and your spouse will change. I will keep at it with PMA, I count alot of my change to the great people who have giving me advice here on my thread, this is a great board to be at for support.
R2C, I will check you out today and give you my advice. Thanks for asking.
Believe me Mike, I already lost the 10lb bass a little over a month ago when I felt I had it at the side of the boat, I will not do that again.
Good luck tonight, let us know how it goes.
I disagree. I don't think you lost that fish. I think you're still reeling her in. Who said anything about hurrying up and landing her?? You need to play those big fish till they are worn out. When their worn out those babies swim right into the damn net!!
You're driving the boat, you have new line on your reels, you got plenty of gas...you got all the time in the world. No problems, everything is good, no problems.
You stay focused brother. You stay focused. You don't step back on that rollercoaster..
I love the analogies on this board, golf and fishing !!! Brilliant.
Nice work ping, I'll read back the whole story tonight as although nice to read the Divorce Busted Threads, it's nice to see the end to end and be here while someone is doing it (not that we want to be doing it but you get me)
Mike, I know I have not lost her, but I also know I would be a month ahead of where I'm at right now if I were in the correct mind set back then. I will keep reeling the reel in.
Arthur, these anaologies really help to put things in perspective, I hope that you are learning off of them also. When you look at them from the standpoint of golf or fishing, it all begins to make since.
Mike, I know I have not lost her, but I also know I would be a month ahead of where I'm at right now if I were in the correct mind set back then. I will keep reeling the reel in.
Arthur, these anaologies really help to put things in perspective, I hope that you are learning off of them also. When you look at them from the standpoint of golf or fishing, it all begins to make since.
Coulda, woulda, shoulda, if we knew back (years ago)then what we know now we would not be here on this BB today would we?? If we had set our pride to the side years ago we would not be here. If you and I had not been asses to the people around us we would not be here.
You and I will be better people no matter what happens. The past is the past. We can't "fix' the past we can only hope that the wrongs we have committed will be forgiven and ALL can move forward.
let's forget about the old Ping, he was a scrambler, playing out of the woods, creeks and hazards making double bogies and wrecking his score..we are looking at the new Ping now, he might scramble and make a bogey every once in a while but now he's confident in his swing, staying focused hitting it down the middle..Fairways and greens, fairways and greens...
GL may just be getting ready to move you over for some putting lessons if your patient. Remember it's the short game where you score!
Well Mike, if your like me, if we were still in our M as we were a while back, we would have never looked at ourselves the way we are now, at least I know I wouldn't have. Everything happens for a reason. Sometimes the reason these things are happening are to make us stronger, I know that if W and I ever do make it together, we will have one hell of a R like we never had before, but I also assure you, had this S not happened, I still would have never seen it.
Ping, good luck. I am in a similar sitch and I am at the four month mark and, yes, I have done things wrong most of this 4 months. Bad thing for me is my D papers are filed and the D will be finalized in about 8 weeks or so. My wife is also seeing OM and of course that complicates things a great deal.
I am trying to DB as you are, but I have to say it's hard. Stay strong, you are making all the right moves right now.
Check out my thread "calling for support" if you have time.
Jerry
M 31 W 30 S 12 S 10 D 5
Bomb Jan 1 Sep Feb 1 Seeing OM Feb 10 Divorce Papers Given to Her 03/20....returned signed 4-9....she wants it as of now.
