Arthur, at your stage right now, your W is playing a game with you as she has pointed out above in your post. She is feeding off of what you are doing as trying to "hang" with her and keep up. My advice on compliments is to stop, obviously she is looking for them, do not sink in to her pleasure of the game. Don't play along with it, the more you play, the more control she has. She is expecting you to play this game, don't do it.
Your W knows you want her, you don't have to bring that up anymore. In fact, our WAS all know that we still want them and that is why we are on this board, they know they don't have to rush to make a decision on saving their M because we are sitting their on the couch waiting for them to come back to us, that is why detaching is so important, it shows our spouse that we are no longer waiting, we will go on with our lives with or without them, only then, will they begin to see things from a different pair of eyes.
Your right, if you love something, let it go, if its true love, it will find its way back to you. That is one true statement, remember this one line in this statement. "LET IT GO"
