I think we all slip from time to time. I don't know if complimenting is good or bad. If it is part of the 180 you are doing, in other words you never complemented before it might be good. In other cases, where the WAW might see it as your darn right I look good and it becomes a false power thing for them.
My point is good or bad I did it for a while and I was getting a half hearted, (guilt ridden) thankyou! So I stopped doing it on any sort of regular basis. It seems that the compliments that a month ago caused her guilt are now missed at times. Go figure!
Like someone else posted don't worry about baby steps or small signs, that can lead to false expectations. Instead look at the big picture! The big picture is you, how do you vision yourself. As a great father, morally strong and interesting individual. One who isn't afraid of giving out compliments when warrented even though you probably will not receive anything in return.
My point is if you like complimenting her because she does look nice, why go against who you are or are becoming. The only reason I would stop is if it hurts you to give them and not receive anything. (only gamble what you are willing to lose) The way I see it, I have nothing to lose so I really am not gambling at all. Yesterday I posted on my thread about wanting to spend time apart, and I still do! Not because it may or may not bother her, but for me!
Do what makes you feel good and give what you want too! It isn't about them anymore, it is about you and your family (whoever chooses to be a part of it).
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
