Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[Runswithscissors]

"RWS is on the fence with this and I can see her point. To me he needs to show some interest first. Then we can adjust. This needs to be a "business" until the "partner" shows some money."


I am on the fence when it comes to the baby, he does not have to show an interest. BY LAW, he is the father and BY LAW he has a right to know about the health of the child. If she ignores his questions/texts/calls about the baby, then he can tell the Judge "your honor, this woman has tried to alienate me from my baby even from the time she was pregnant with diabetes and I had not clue on how my baby was thriving". Since CA is a no fault case, the Judge isn't going to "care" WHY she did it, but that she did it. With CA being a strong joint custody state with one parent being a primary- this could hurt her.

SUCKS Dbing when an infant is involved. NOT impossible to Dbing but almost impossible to go dark when it involves the baby.

She "has" to tell him about the appointments, she "has" to allow him in at delivery, so when she goes into labor she "has" to tell him I am in labor. He may or may not show... but she can't keep that from him. If she did.... I can hear it now in court "Your Honor, the mother refused to have the father present at the birth of his child". MAN... that would suck big ones for her!

What she "can" control are her answers. He asks how the baby is, she says "great".... nothing more. He asks how she is- she ignores it, deletes the text. She Emails the appointments and time. Now that he has the appointment and time, she does NOT have to follow up with how it went.... LET HIM ASK but again... answer, "apt was fine". If there is something to be of concern by the Dr, you ask the Dr to write it down for you and then you email him and say Dr says this. "xxxxxx". If he calls to inquire, you leave it alone/disregard. If he was that concerned, his ass should of been at the appointment you had already told him. But telling him you have to do. Expanding on it, continuing the conversation- you don't.