Went out for a meal last night. Not a good idea. I tried to keep the conversation light, eg talk about work and the kids. She brought up the subject of OM. Again she wanted me to know that he was not the reason for the break-up, that she had only decided to start a relationship with him over the past 2 weeks. I remarked 'how strange? You have only started the relationship with him over the past two weeks, yet you said you loved him and wanted to spend the rest of your life with him!'. She replied ' you are right, maybe I don't love him that much'. The conversation deteriorated when I asked her to keep her wits about her, that he may be using her to stay in the country. This set her off. I said to her that given his heroine addiction and his criminal conviction I felt that my children would be at risk if she were to bring him to the house when they are there and that I would consider applying to the court for an injunction agaist him being anywhere near them. She stormed out of the restaurant. I stayed for the dessert...it was delicious! She later rang me and said that if I don't bring my lady friend to the house when the children are there, she will not expose them to the OM. I said that my children are my priority and that during the time they are with me they will receive my undivided attention. God I feel so stressed. I wish I never went to dinner with her. I will make sure I don't do it again. She had also suggested spending time as a family once a fortnight, but I don't think that it is a good idea either. I better keep total NC with her.
