There was no violent act that precipitated her petitioning the state for protection from me. But I do not deny there was something traumatic for her in our interactions - the trauma of discussing our divorce. In the days and weeks prior to her filing for protection from me, we had regular contact on things like where the kids will live, how we will settle on a custody arrangement, our respective budgets, and so on. In other words, the mechanics of divorce. She couldn't handle it, so went nuclear.
SirPrize.
You have answered your own question.
She wants no contact with you because you represent pain and trauma.
When you feel hurt, emotionally or physically by something or someone that natural thing to do is to get as far away from it / them as quickly as possible.
I think Kikifree’s H is doing the same. When he has interactions with her he feels pain he sees no end to it as they have a child together.
He may feel trapped in a painful situation and is trying to limit the impact it has on him emotionally.
I have N/C with my H for the very same reasons.
Nutty.
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
