Finding DB late in the game #4

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I didn't listen to my therapist about backing off this week. During the day for the past couple of days I did, but he invited me to stay for dinner tonight, so I figured it was OK to not back off.

Asked him if he wanted to watch a movie together tonight and he said no. I told him I assumed it was because spending time alone with me freaks him out and said, "My bad. I should know this." However, he said that wasn't it, rather he was stressed out about work and couldn't think about planning his evening. I thanked him for communicating with me. It really is a step for him.

That said, I think I did a little anti-DBing today, but it just seemed to fit our situation. He was supposed to be home at 5:30pm today and make dinner, a dinner he invited me to. At 5:15 he called and said that his boss just dumped something on him and that he'd be 30 minutes late or so and asked if I minded. I told him no and that I'd have to start dinner because the kids were hungry. Then I asked him if he could pick up some flooring pieces (no, this freaking project is NOT done yet, but should be tomorrow) before they closed as it's just a couple of blocks from his work. He said he would. Then I asked him if he wanted to see the movie with me and he gave me the negative answer.

After I told him my assumptions and he replied that it wasn't that but work and that he'd have to go back to the office after picking up the flooring pieces, I thanked him and said that I could have picked them up myself if he would have told me AND that, no problem on dinner because I'm here to help him navigate life's stresses. He didn't get home until 7:15pm and again thanked me. I took that opportunity to say that this is when it's helpful to have me as his wife, that it wouldn't be that big of a deal if we were together and that in terms of his career, being married to me is a good thing.

Probably not the best DBing, but I really feel that he takes me being a SAHM for granted and doesn't realize how it really helps him advance in his career. That's something that I think he needs to think about.

So, not a great day, not a bad day.

I need some great days!! In that vein, I made my day a little better and bought my new golf clubs today. Sweet clubs and a little splurge on myself, which is a big 180. Can't wait to see if I can get some time at the range in tomorrow. If not, Friday morning I'm SO there!