If you haven't already done so, value everything, be realistic. Put a value on the used furniture (big stuff) as a price you would get at an estate sale. (not much)
Consider the real value on selling the house, a price for which the house really would sell (do not anticipate putting money into it). I think you said no equity right?
In CA, you split everything down the middle including retirement accounts accumulated after getting married.
If you put his shoes on, does the settlment you are proposing seem fair?
Now, if you liquidate everything, is he better or worse off? If you factor in court (and maybe attorney) costs, how is he looking now?
Many states allow mediators to be hired to come up with a workable SA which is cheaper than having lawyers run up bills for both of you.
Once you have done the math, you can present the options to him including going before a mediator. If he is presented options, he should choose the one that makes the most sense for him. I can't see how going to court can work for him.
Getting married argument the dialogues about getting married don't seem to be helping the matter. The real issue is you want your privacy and you want ties cut cleanly, for the sake of the kids. If you two are having tension in the future, the kids will pick up on it.
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