Ready2Change (II) - Detached

[Ready2Change]

Today -> Good day.

Most interaction with W tonight was ok. She still distant. I actually received some longer eye contact. Not much conversation.

(We both now have separate bank accounts)
W has always taken care of all the bills. I have asked to be involved. She is reluctant, but she told me I need to start paying my CC bill. W wants me saving up to "get my own place" etc (from conversation in past). I will go to bank and get some historical records to help understand the cash flow...

A few new 180's. I left voice mail to W that I am bringing home dinner (W cooks most of time). I remembered several household things we needed, so I picked them up at store on way home. I went clothes shopping. Had a new outfit on today when I got home (Yellow Nike shirt, new Nike cap).

I got a haircut today. (only 2 weeks went by, old me waited months)

I helped coach S7 Base Ball team. Had a great time. Focusing on getting all the kids names remembered. Very enjoyable helping the kids learn new skills...

Read Pinocchio to kids tonight. D5 fell asleep in my arms. What a great feeling! S7 has my sarcastic personality (he was entertaining tonight)

Interesting: I was helping S9 with homework, and W actually looked me in the eye and questioned a statement I made about the year I was born. Not sure if I slipped or she heard me wrong. Not sure why she did it. She has mostly ignored me for the past 10 weeks. She is getting softer.

S7 was upset that FIL "forced" him to get a haircut. I calmly stated to W that the parents need to make these type of decisions. W spoke with her dad and let him know we need to make these decisions. We also told S7 that he will be included in making haircut decisions. (The in laws are very involved with the kids and We greatly appreciate their help. I think there are a lot of control issues that are going to be addressed during this difficult time)