please don't buy EVERY single word he says, don't, he DID love you to marry you, he DID find you incredibly sexy. His brain isnt' working right and he is not about to admit that, it is easier to find a scape goat. You got the same lecture so many of us got 'never was really happy, no connection, never really in love' LIES
He can call the sky green all he wants, but you know the truth, you were withhim for 10yrs, you know he did love you and nothing, not even him can erase those good years. Put those happy memories away safely... and do waht you are doing now, taking care of yourself and let him go gently.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.