Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[newnamenewlife]

Lea, My H, too said the EXACT same words--doesn't love me as a H should love a W, all of it. He is depressed, for sure--but he'd say it's because of his unhappiness with me. Yet he's not really doing anything to move out. I am not standing in his way exactly, but I'm certainly not going to help him, which is what he seems to want. I also know about the lack of life in the eyes. I feel like I'm invisible to H lately. When I'm with anyone else--I mean, anyone--I feel more appreciated and validated as a human being. So why do I even want him?

I forget--is your H still living there? Mine is. In fact he is chomping on an apple about a foot away from me.

I don't know. After 6 months, I still struggle and wonder what to do. My H&I have been together for 19 years and our lives are completely entwined--financially, plus we have kids together. I am also torn about DBing or just trying to accept this and move on somehow. I guess if you DB properly, it's about moving on and focusing on you. It's very hard not to hope for a restored M as a result.