YOU? What do you think? Does any of this make sense?
GL, I did not answer this question earlier. To be honest none of this has made sense to me. I'm talking about my whole sitch. I have looked at it logically and w/common sense and there is no logic. I stopped trying to figure out what the(her) problem was and have tried to change for the better. I have stopped persuing and pushing her. I don't argue with her. I am acting 'as if" I will be alright. She has maintained that she fell out of love with me, does not know if she can get those feelings back. Is afraid that if she stays in the M that down the road she will regret it, if she gets out then down the road she will regret it. Says I'm not a family man that I am a bachelor at heart. Says I don't put her first. Says she sees me trying to make changes, then has told me I have not changed at all.
Truly, I don't think she is having an A. Until I can get hard evidence then I think that way. I may never get hard evidence.
An A for me would be a dealbreaker, we would be done. If there is an A then I want to know. I can handle knowing and it will help me to move in the proper direction.
There are no tell tale signs that I see physically. The trip to Nashville makes sense to me. It is not out of character for that to happen. If she started staying overnight again, then that would be out of character for her. I heard her boss in the car in the background.
I know what you are saying, I am watching. I value your objective opinion. Never ever think that you are offending me. If there is something else I need to watch for or do please feel free to post and let me know. I really appreciate the feedback you give me.
You have never made me angry or offended me. Personnally I think you are a god-send. You came out of nowhere and helped Ping turn his sitch around. I know Ping is grateful, I can see it in his posts.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 04/30/0806:24 PM.
YOU? What do you think? Does any of this make sense?
You have never made me angry or offended me. Personnally I think you are a god-send. You came out of nowhere and helped Ping turn his sitch around. I know Ping is grateful, I can see it in his posts.
I am with you on this Mike, he has been a god send.
Mike, how are things going today, was today the day of the MC, if so I would like to know how it went and if you followed through on what you were going to do.
I am sure the weight loss has helped your golf swing, looks to me that since you have been on these boards, you have not been out of the 70's, I'd say that is pretty good playing indeed.
Mike, how are things going today, was today the day of the MC, if so I would like to know how it went and if you followed through on what you were going to do.
I am sure the weight loss has helped your golf swing, looks to me that since you have been on these boards, you have not been out of the 70's, I'd say that is pretty good playing indeed.
Things went good last night. The MC is tonight. I plan on acting like I am moving forward with the D.
The W came in yesterday with D and groceries right on time. I met them at the car. W said she was sick to her stomach. I grabbed the D out of her car helped them inside and proceeded to unload the car. Suggested to the W that she lay down for a bit and I would take care of D and groceries. She laid down on the couch and I proceeded to put up groceries and wrestle with the D and the dog, trying to keep them off the W. I gave the D a bath, fed D and cooked us something to eat. A busy night. We talked about her Nashville day trip, what went on during her day and tried to troubleshoot what may have made her sick to her stomach. I did ask her if she thought her queazy stomach may have been caused by being anxious or nerves. She said she has been anxious and antsy for a while. I assured her that there was no reason to be anxious at the house, that everything was OK at the house as far as bills being paid, the house was running as it should and we were having fun with our D, we were not arguing so no need to be ansty. I ended up quizzing her a bit about her symptoms and ended up going upstairs and getting her Tums and PeptoBismol..she tried the Tums and they seemed to work for a bit but I noticed she tried the Pepto right before bed. She told me to sleep good and goodnight. Sometimes she tells me this sometimes she does not. She happened to get up this AM to let the dog out as I was getting ready for work, I asked her if her stomach was better and she said "yes, thanks"
The weight loss has made me quicker though the swing zone I think. I've probably picked up a little swing speed and my timing is a little better I think. I'm only playing once a week and not practicing so to be scoring like I am I am playing good.
I am OK today. I got on the Rollercoaster about midday Tuesday, I think it was because of a lack of sleep Monday night. Got off the rollercoaster about 5:00 yesterday, just before the W got home w/D.
Mike, good to see you had a good night and that your W was appreciative of you helping with her sickness. Hope she is feeling better. Good luck tonight at C, feel us in on what happens, I really believe it is the right step to make at this time, she has to see you are going to be fine without her and this will show her that. I will check back tonight on the outcome. Remember, don't set any expectations of the way you are wanting her to act tonight, this will only throw this off if she does not act the way you are expecting, but believe me, she will be thinking what is going on here.
Mike, I have MC tonight as well. Sounds like you have a good mind set right now, try to stay off the roller coaster until after the session!
I have been hitting a bucket of balls almost every day, still can't get my hips around and if the hole was about 30 yards to my right, I would be hitting every green! Like you, the weight loss has been great for that and I am not even sore after the bucket! 102 balls in a bucket, that would account for the front nine :-)
Be well,
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Humor is coming back, slowly, but it is peeking its little head out. Ironic thing as well, I am an avid fisherman as well, mostly fly fish, but love to get out and the fish anaologies work as well!
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
Mike, good to see you had a good night and that your W was appreciative of you helping with her sickness. Hope she is feeling better. Good luck tonight at C, feel us in on what happens, I really believe it is the right step to make at this time, she has to see you are going to be fine without her and this will show her that. I will check back tonight on the outcome. Remember, don't set any expectations of the way you are wanting her to act tonight, this will only throw this off if she does not act the way you are expecting, but believe me, she will be thinking what is going on here.
Ping, I forgot to mention in my post this morning..My W told me last night that WE need to by my D a booster seat because she has outgrown her high chair. I shrugged it off as a slip on her part. I asked her what the plan was with our D's crib, my W said We need to get the numbers off the crib and go to Toys R Us to buy the bed rails to make it a child's bed. She also called me Hun. I let all that go,let it slip right by me, never even acknowledged the words.
I think these may be slips on her part. I'm not for sure. She has sent me many mixed signals over the last month. She seems hell bent on moving forward w/ the D.
My plan is stil the same for tonight. I may not get to post results until in the morning. I am trying to be really careful on the computer at home..me typing like crazy may make her think I am chatting with someone or doing something I should not be doing. I know she wonders what I am doing up there.
