Competing Against Fantasy Girl

[Barbara66]

Help! My husband of sixteen years told me 5 days after I had surgery that he didn't love me anymore, didn't know if he ever did and was just doing what was expected after 5 years of dating. Swore there was no OW. I found emails that there was OW and that he had spent a weekend with her when he was on a business trip. He met her on line. They are in the same "guild" (black rook hold) in the World of Warcraft (WOW) on-line game. I confronted him, he stuck around for about 2 weeks then moved out on our 16th wedding anniversary. He now lives with his parents. OW is in another state. He still calls, texts, IM's and communicates through guild mail with OW. (I just decided to stop snooping today...why do I feel the need to torture myself??) He has been here just about everyday for the past 20 days since he left. We have 2 boys who miss their father very much. We are going to a counselor, although he would only agree to counseling if we went seperately. He says he can not make me any promises because he loves the OW more than he ever loved me. He says if we cannot reconcile, then he will pursue a relationship with OW. I should hate him but I love him. He has hurt me more than I have ever been hurt and I still want him to come home. I know we can get through this and be stronger for it. He is so COLD and detached right now it feels like I may lose him, but I have all the hope in the world that he will come back to his family. Any advice? What should I do/not do?? Please help.